My Definitions of Love & Romance…

Love is...Magic

Love is…Magic

We live in an era where bumper sticker quote sentiments litter our Facebook feeds like an ongoing ticker tape of empowerment narratives and drive-thru therapy.

But long before we liked, pinned, or retweeted these pearls of digiterati, before books, film & pop culture shaped how we navigated our love lives, advice came from our elders and our peers—and within that, sayings that have endured the test of time.

Every Man has heard the adage: “Why Buy the Cow, When You Can Get the Milk for Free? (*To which I just want to respond to in a droning  ‘Mooooooo’ every time I hear it…)

And I don’t know a Woman who hasn’t heard from her own mother… “A Woman should be with a Man who Loves her More…

As a woman I can only respond to the latter, and while it might be controversial, I do think there is a lot to be said for a man who is head over heels in love with his woman. This is not something that is actually quantitative, as in…he loves her 60% and she loves him 40%…but rather a man who puts his love on a pedestal…loves his woman even more than he loves himself, like the above Frida Kahlo quote…he looks at her as though she were absolute  ♥ ♥ MAGIC ♥ ♥…

At the end of the day…Male or Female…Everyone deserves to feel utterly adored if only for moments or for a lifetime. Both can be just as fulfilling.

♪ ‘Love…Exciting and New’

Ahhhh the 80’s TV hit The Love Boat…New Love is incredible, but it has to evolve into something much deeper if it’s going to stand the test of time. After the initial haze of butterflies and sweet nothings, a relationship becomes something that has to be constantly worked on, treasured, and fought for…even if the love itself is effortless.

That being said, as a Cancer female I am a true hopeless romantic.  Below are a couple of visuals on what is the apogee in Romance to me…

Dancing with your partner anytime…anywhere…Verona Italy; the site of Romeo & Juliet…the love poetry of Pablo Neruda and His & Her Couple Tattoos.

…and here are some of my favorite quotes on true love and soul mates…

For my readers old & new…single or attached…Happy Valentines Day to you…Love in all its many permutations is really the most important thing that you can have in your life.

Not money, not things, not accomplishments…

XOXO                                                                                                                                                                                                      The Pop Culture Rainman

A Passage for EVERYONE…

I read this passage about a month ago, and beyond the goose bumps that appeared all over my arms, *every* part of this passage spoke to me–resonating deep within. Whoever you are, whatever stage you are at in your journey in this life…I believe this passage is a great road map to live life by. I truly hope you enjoy it as I have.

N.B. It is unclear who has written this so I am not attributing any author to it, and in some ways it seems fitting as it would fall in line with the true meaning of the text that this author would remain anonymous.

You will sometimes meet someone you believe is a soul mate; you feel the connection on many levels, perhaps instantly. And as you get to know each other more, you begin to feel the connection deepen and you feel that you must have an arrangement with this person that predated this lifetime.

Do not assume, however, that this soul connection necessarily means that you are meant to be happily together for this lifetime. It may be that you are meant to be friends and allies, helping each other out. It may be that you are going to help each other in ways that even involve conflict and separation, but with an end result that is beneficial to you. It may be that you are going to learn some lesson from each other and then go your separate ways.

What you need to do with all relationships, including those that have that instant and deep connection, is let be. You need to allow all of life, including close relationships, flow and evolve. You need to let people be who they are, not what you want them to be. And above all, you must not try to control, push and prod, manipulate and orchestrate relationships.

Have the courage and the heart, the centeredness, to follow your own path, to be who you are and love being who you are, no matter what. Shine out and show us who you are, so that people who are looking for someone exactly like you can find you. Do not allow setbacks or even major betrayals to dampen your shine and your being.

In life’s journey you will encounter much, narrow paths blocked by avalanches, forks in the road shrouded in fog, deep valleys of darkness and bright sunny days in meadows of golden poppies. It is all a part of life. And as you walk your path, other people will join you for a time: a dear friend, a lover, a spouse, children and parents. And then they may go away
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Say ‘Yes’ to EVERYTHING!

Although not exactly a new ‘tome’ (I read it two years ago) Tina Fey’s’ best seller ‘Bossy Pants’ reads like a nostalgic car wash in perseverance and ‘making it’. Besides the most inventive testimonial back cover I’ve ever read, the one takeaway from her famed book that I use DAILY is to ‘SAY YES TO EVERYTHING!’



This passage from her book came from her years honing her ‘funny’ in improv. One of the main tenants in improv is to ‘Say Yes to EVERYTHING’…ie; just ‘play it out, run with it..’ and it’s a philosophy that truly resonated with me. I TRY to say ‘Yes’ to everything…and I don’t mean actual ‘invitations to events’…but rather ideas, possibilities, and unchartered waters.


*except for narcotics…where you should continue to JUST SAY NO.


The PopCulture Rainman™

Entrances & Exits…

Here’s a poignant thought for the day. It’s what I’m experiencing now watching my mother in her last days in this life. Love is all that is REAL in this world and all the matters. If we get it ‘right’ it will definitely hurt like hell when its time to let go, but it also gives us a strength we never thought possible.

Love is all you need…xoxo